Seneca and Szánto
Gyuri
Although we didn't see each other
much and I knew little about him, we were firm friends, like young
people who meet and immediately establish a rapport. In some ways we
were a lot alike, in other ways we were very different. Gyuri,
George, arrived in New Zealand after the 1956 Hungarian uprising. He
had ambitions to become a judge. That was in Hungary. Then history
intervened. Justice in communist Hungary was somewhat elusive. To
become a judge an ethical young man would have had to compromise his
principles. But this is probably not why he left. He probably left
because he saw this as his one opportunity to leave and try his luck
in a far distant Western country. I suppose he ended up in New
Zealand because the lottery that offered refugee destination in
Vienna to the many thousands of people who fled Hungary suggested it.
New Zealand was ready to accept young men with no qualifications
apart from their willingness to work. So here was George, a young
Hungarian Jewish intellectual I could talk with about literature,
politics, life in general, and we played chess. Although I had lived
in New Zealand for some eight years, and thought of myself as
reasonably assimilated, I found in Gyuri a kindred spirit. I would
have been teaching at the time and trying to complete my university
degree. Gyuri found work in Tourist Hotels in various parts of the
country. He had a lot of personal charm, and presented quite a
dashing slight figure. Perhaps he also considered doing a part time
course at university, but I am not sure about that. What he really
wanted to do is to go sailing. He bought a boat, moored it in Evans
Bay and lived on that. Once he took me and a girl whose name I can't
now recall, on a cruise around the harbour. Gyuri, George, was
popular with girls. It was memorable, because we were becalmed just
outside Oriental bay, and the boat stopped completely still. We
didn't have a functioning motor. After waiting for a while for some
breeze, Gyuri got into the dinghy and rowed us, towed us to our
destination. This is one of my vivid memories of him. Gyuri and I
tried to find out place within the local Jewish community, but were
not made welcome. We were too different, had too little in common at
the time with other young Jewish men and women in the Jewish circles.
Once we got all dressed up to go to a function and were turned away.
Perhaps we didn't know that we should have booked in advance, or had
to be members in some organisation we didn't even know existed.
Anyway, the incident left a bad impression. Neither of us cared much
about religion, but being Jewish meant a lot to us. Gyuri moved away
from Wellington, still sailing and moored his boat, I think, in
Auckland. New vistas, new opportunities. Then tragedy struck. Gyuri
was hit on his head by the boom of his sail. He didn't appear to
suffer significant injury, but he lost his hearing. He went
completely deaf. The doctors could not establish what caused his
deafness, there appeared to be no obvious cause. Gyuri hoped that the
Mayo Clinic in America, with its state of the art facilities, might
be able to help. Gyuri and I kept exchanging letters, he despairing,
writing of his despair in a facetious light hearted manner, I trying
to keep his spirit up, hoping that help will be just around the
corner, or medical science will find a miracle cure. But the miracle
never happened. Gyuri and I often talked about Seneca. This is about
the only conversation I still remember. Seneca was perhaps one of the
Latin authors I was studying at the time. Gyuri was captivated by
Seneca's stoic philosophy. Gyuri only wanted to live on his own
terms. This did not include living with total deafness. Then he got
into the bath one day, and like Seneca, he cut his artery and killed
himself. In his will he left instructions for his executors to send
me a chess set to remember him by. I received, quite unexpectedly a
beautiful marble and alabaster chess set with chess board. I still
have it, though one of the pieces is slightly broken. From time to
time I think of Gyuri, a lovely young man, trying to fit into the New
Zealand world, an independent spirit, but out of place in the
homogeneous New Zealand world of the 1950s.